CORINNE

COMMUNICATION COMPETENCY

 

Definition

How I receive and exchange information with others in an effective and enjoyable manner.

 

Criteria

• Clear

• Comfortable

• Efficient

• Listens

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         My mother and I have completely different ideas of how to communicate. In many of our

conversations when I get too passionate or feel justified, I act as a bulldozer in the conversation.

My passion is definitely one of my favorite characteristics of myself, but could be my most dangerous.

Caught in the moment, I may say something bluntly when it needs to be said with love. One time my mom

and I disagreed on how to handle a situation and I ended the phone call poorly each time. I took out my passion on her even though she had done nothing wrong to me. Afterwards, I realized no good had come from me flying off the handle.

         I have learned that even if I feel like there is no way the other side could be correct, I need to listen and try to make the other person feel heard. I have texted my mom and apologized and asked what she thinks I should do and thanked her for caring enough to be involved. It may seem like a small instance, but ever since then I catch myself getting carried away and ask myself what is important. To win the conversation? Or win in the relationship.